Aftermath

Well, it's been a week and 2 days since I broke things off with the (ex) bf. It's had its ups & downs. Ups being that I don't feel guilty for going out with my friends a lot, and when someone asks me to do something I can automatically say yes if I want, and know I mean it. But, it's downs are that sometimes I do miss him, of course. Knowing that he's very upset makes it harder, but his sister says he's getting better every day. I think the ups are more than the downs though.

Turns out that the ex is addicted to pain pills (he was prescribed them when he had jaw surgery about a year ago) and he's come clean with everyone about his problem and is getting help. His sister said he was taking 10-12 a day, and he told her he sometimes couldn't wait until I went out so he could sit on the couch pilled up. Unbelievable. I knew he was prescribed them, and he was always in pain...etc. but I didn't know he had a problem, let alone a BIG problem. So, obviously him going through withdrawal isn't pretty.

He's been calling my mom a lot. First, telling her he's getting help, then telling her he has started going to the gym, and he is fishing around trying to get info from her. He thinks there's more to the breakup, that there's some mystery reason that he HAS to find out. Mum said that he sorta wierds her out when he's talking to her, and she told me not to go anywhere to meet him, answer his calls or texts. I wasn't planning to anyways, because I know if I did, he'd just try to manipulate me somehow. He actually told my mom that he's convinced I'm on drugs, and that's why I've been behaving the way I've been, and why I broke up with him. !!!! Excuse me??? That's YOU, buddy! Unbelievable. My mom knows better, fortunately. She told him that when she talked to me she asked how I was doing concerning the breakup - and I told her I didn't want to talk about it. So, she left it at that and she isn't going to ask anymore. Then, she also told him that when he calls, she's not going to have anything to tell him. (Like she'd really tell him, anyways.) She tried to explain to him in the nicest way that I'm an independent person...blah blah blah - trying to help him understand, etc.

He did stop at my work the other day to give me a present he'd ordered for me before we broke up and he was going to give me for Christmas. He said maybe 4 words, then left. But, 5 minutes later he called, asked if I'd opened it and then talked for a few minutes. His reason for calling was to let me know his mom wanted to get a hold of a friend of mine.

So, afterwards, I called my mom at work. "Hold on, I have a beep." I clicked over, it was him again. This time his reason is to tell me he's taking care of the final TV bill. (I didn't even get into the $1300 final gas bill I got!) So I said, "Okay, great." Then, he was talking about how I should stop by to see the dog (at his parent's house) and I told him I probably would sometime that week. Then, he asked if I wanted to take the dog out to the park and talk. I told him I had plans, so he said, "What about tomorrow?" and I said, "Uhh...let me get back to you," and I didn't.

1. I don't want to see him, aka deal with his emotions: guilt tripping me, crying, manipulating...etc. and talk it all out.
2. It's waaaaaay too soon for something like that. Maybe in like 2 months or so.

I felt bad, but the next day is when my mom called and said he told her he thinks I'm on drugs.
So, I'm not feeling so bad anymore.
He needs to just focus on himself and get healthy.